Creative Approaches To Supporting Troubled Teens Who Resist Counseling
Teenagers experience a complex phase of life where they’re developing their identities, managing peer pressures, and exploring their independence. When teens face mental health struggles, family issues, or behavioral challenges, counseling can be a valuable tool for support. However, many teens resist counseling, viewing it as intimidating or irrelevant. This resistance can leave caregivers feeling stuck on how to help. Fortunately, there are approaches to engage these teens in a way that feels authentic and meaningful to them.
Build Trust
Traditional counseling environments, like an office, may feel too formal for some teens. Shifting to non-traditional settings can create a more relaxed atmosphere that builds trust.
Instead of sitting face-to-face, consider walking in a park or along a trail while having conversations. Movement can help teens feel less self-conscious and improve their moods. Also, art studios, music rooms, or any space that promotes creative arts can provide an environment where teens feel more comfortable.
Volunteering or attending community events can serve as an informal way to connect while also giving them a sense of purpose.
Incorporate Teen’s Interests
Teens are more likely to engage when their passions and hobbies are integrated into the process. By supporting their interests, you can create a more personalized and enjoyable experience.
Art Therapy: Drawing, painting, or sculpting can serve as outlets for expressing emotions that might be hard to articulate with words.
Music Therapy: Allow teens to write lyrics, create playlists, or share songs that resonate with how they’re feeling.
Gaming: Some counselors can use video or board games as an entry point to build rapport and discuss topics like problem-solving, teamwork, and frustration management.
Normalize The Counseling Process
Teens often resist counseling because they perceive it as something “wrong” with them. Changing how they view counseling can make it feel less intimidating.
Group Activities: Participating in group counseling sessions with peers who share similar experiences can reduce the stigma around mental health treatment.
Mentorship: Getting involved in a mentorship program and pairing with other older teens may open an opportunity to share troubling issues with a potential role model.
Highlight Success Stories: Share examples of how therapy has helped others achieve personal growth, emphasizing that it is not a punishment but rather a tool for empowerment.
Use A Strength-Based Approach
Instead of focusing solely on problems, highlight the teen’s strengths and potential. Positive affirmations help build self-esteem and resilience.
Work with teens to set their achievable personal goals that give them a sense of accomplishment. Acknowledge and reward any progress made, no matter how small. Help teens view their struggles as opportunities for growth rather than failures. Allow them to incorporate their strengths while trying to resolve conflict.
Involve Trusted Adults Or Peers
Support from a trusted support system can provide additional layers of encouragement. Involving family members in sessions can provide a more comprehensive support team. Collaborate with school-based counselors or teachers who have established rapport with the teen. You can also encourage participation in peer support groups where teens can share their experiences.
Foster Autonomy And Choice
Teens value independence and are likely to engage when they feel in control of their journey.
Let Them Choose the Counselor: Allowing teens to have a say in who they work with can increase their desire to engage in sessions.
Flexible Approaches: Offer options for how sessions are structured, such as where the session takes place, topics for discussion, and how long it lasts.
Collaborative Planning: Involve teens in setting the agenda for sessions to ensure their concerns are heard and goals are prioritized.
If your teen is still struggling with resistance, encourage them to attend one session just to try. The first session can allow your teen to determine whether or not therapy is a right fit for them. Call today for more information about teen therapy.
